Safa means tranquil, serene, calm…I try

This is what my husband says everytime I tell him I want to purchase something for the house. He is a fake minimalist who thinks we accumulate too much “stuff”. OK, I can get with that. I mean, really, I understand that we “can’t take it with us”. Also we should view our time here as though we are strangers. HOWEVER, what annoys me to no end is that he will refuse to contribute to whatever I want and I’ll go ahead and get it with my money - that’s cool. BUT, once we have the item in the house he enjoys it!!

Example; I wanted to pay someone to custom paint my son’s room. dh was like, “why can’t we paint ourselves?”…he continued, “I am not paying someone to paint my son’s room when I can buy the paint and do it myself”. I was like, “ok, don’t worry about it, I’ll pay for it since it’s only $120″. “I wanted a specific design. Soooo, I paid the guy and as he was painting my DH comes home from work.

Do you know that he spent the majority of the evening critiquing the guy’s work!! I mean he did a great job but dh was just there asking a million and one questions. This was about 3 months ago. My dh sometimes stands there and marvels at how good my son’s room look. I get p-oed b/c he enjoys it and sees the beauty in it but didn’t contribute to it.

Why do men do this? More specifically, my husband? Ugghhh. I mean, if I say I want to buy new blinds, he will say, “what’s wrong with our old blinds?” He knows that once I think something needs changing (b/c I watch too much HGTV), I will get it no matter what. I know that if it were up to him, we would only have the basics. He counts on me to decorate and think of the little things. That’s fine but at least he can acknowledge that this enhances his life too. Instead he just sees it as frivolity and not important to spend money on.