Second thoughts…
My favorite aunt from back home in NYC agreed to come down and help out when the baby is born. She is an older doctor; very busy and set in her ways. She is sweet as pie but like me - loves her space! So when I hinted last month that I wanted her to come and she agreed I was floored!!! Well actually, I really didn’t hint. I think I was just feeling sad about the fact that my mom would never get to see this child either since she’s dead and that if she were alive, she probably would be with me after the baby came. I mentioned this to my aunt and she just offered to come. I wasn’t looking for her to come here and would not have asked but when she offered I couldn’t say no.
She loves everyone in my household. However, when we stay with her when I go home to visit, I can tell she gets sick of us after a few days. Ya know, my 4 year-old’s antics are no longer cute and we are just “there”. Believe me, she and I are a lot alike!
Anyway, I thought about it. I don’t need help with her feeding baby or washing bottles, etc because I nurse. Also, she will be one more person I’ll have to see and talk to or try to make sure is entertained and not bored. I don’t know. I guess I can use her help in other ways. Maybe to cook her fabulous meals for me, wash clothes, take son to park (would she do that?), better yet….just keep me company! OK….no more second thoughts:) Plus, she loves my husband and I can see them taking my son and stepgirls into DC to sight see or something. BTW, she told my husband that if we ever broke up he would still be her nephew and could still visit her in NY (he’s from DC)!!!! I thought that was nice of her. Probably won’t if we ever did break up!
Anyway, my problem was that I was looking at this whole thing as me having to play hostess instead of me being the one pampered! Old habits…
i would have felt the sme way… i would have never asked in the first place. always good to have an extra hand with a new baby…but i don’t know from experiance… it will be good for you.
Comment by Koolbreeze — April 7, 2006 @ 2:43p
I sooo know what you mean. If you’re anything like I was after my boys were born, I liked the company but on MY time- not 24/7 in my house and around me. I just wanted to just BE. But even if someone was saying that they were there to help me, I would still feel like I had to host in a small way, and after the baby you just sort of want your space. I don’t know how big or small your house is but if she were staying in my house, I’d feel kind of invaded. I know she has good intentions though. you could always call and tell her that on second thought, it would probably be best if you had the first few weeks alone, to get adjusted, etc.
Comment by Cityslicker mom — April 7, 2006 @ 5:04p
I totally understand what your mean but I am SURE your aunt knows the deal. She is coming to help with your son and do the grunt work you can’t and don’t feel like doing! Enjoy it sweetie. Once she is gone your gonna be like holy moly….I have to cook dinner now
LOL
Comment by Brandi — April 7, 2006 @ 1:22p
Enjoy the pampering - you’ll need it an deserve it!
Comment by Nicole — April 7, 2006 @ 3:56p
If your aunt is as much like you as you say then I am sure she already knows the deal and will be nothing but help to you.
Comment by rhonda — April 7, 2006 @ 4:47p
ditto Rhonda! If you can get a good meal and not have to cook it, TAKE IT!!!! I’m glad things are going so well, its almost over
Comment by Sharon — April 7, 2006 @ 5:10p
that’s how old my twins were when they were born….
I know how you feel…but in the first coupla weeks you will need sleep time…and she can provide a buffer…
and you know what? This is something she can do and be so proud of being able to do it. What a wonderful aunt…I have some good ones too…they took the twins this weekend so I could work overtime….
Comment by dj diva — April 8, 2006 @ 1:49p
It is hard to have people over after a birth. It is nice though to have a break. Maybe she can entertain your 4 year old while you nurse? Maybe then you can take a nap when the baby is napping?
Comment by chelle — April 10, 2006 @ 2:30p
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Comment by Nicole — April 13, 2006 @ 2:49p