Safa means tranquil, serene, calm…I try

A few things going on…

I went through Mc.do.nald’s drive-thru for a cup of coffee (which has just been voted best in the country btw) and asked for a medium decaf with 2 creams and 2 equals (usually carry own Splen.da but forgot). Anyway, I pick up my coffee but they don’t hand me a stirrer or my cream/equals. I get that pleasantly annoyed look on my face and the guy’s looking at me like I’m crazy! I ask for my condiments and he says, “oh, ma’am we’ve already mixed them in for you…have a great day”. What???!!! Mickey Ds is steppin’ up their game! The only problem I have with this improved service is what about when I ask for 4 creams and 5 equals just to stash for when I’m home, etc????

I lost a “friend”…I considered this person a close acquaintance anyway. Here’s what happended. We were discussing that horrible pizza guy who kidnapped and held captive the two young boys (one for 4 years). Afterward, I said “I hope he gets killed in prison”, she asks, “why do you say that?”. I replied, “no I don’t want him to get killed, just hurt a little”. She says, “hmm, well my phone’s about to go out so bye”.

As soon as the words had come out of my mouth, I realized my mistake. First, she is currently, as we speak, going through something similar with her brother who is in prison for a horrible crime against a child and her grandmother. He’s been in prison about 6 years and may not ever see the outside world again (and you know it was bad when homicide wasn’t involved). Anyway, she and her family have been rallying for him b/c he’s being targeted inside by COs and other prisoners. You know, beat-up, threatened, etc. b/c the victims are from that area I guess. Whenever she discussed this situation, I just nod or try to support HER since she’s all broken up about it. Inside, I think about his victims. Anyway, I must have touched a nerve.

Ultimately my mistake was being judgemental, I should have said, “may God give him what he deserves”. Anyway, I left her a message a couple days later apologizing if she took it personally and saying that I was talking about that man only…which I’m sure she knows. Anyway, she hasn’t responded and it’s been about 2 weeks. We’ve been cool for less than 2 years so I’ll be ok.

My question: is she overeacting or am I diminishing the situation. I mean, I called and emailed her!!!